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Do you ever feel like you can’t make the right decisions? Like choosing one thing or another thing is going to somehow screw up your life? I know I do! Second guessing myself is my middle name. But, you can’t let it stop you from moving forward and reaching for your dreams.
Moving forward is scary. It’s hard to tell if you’re making the right choice or if you’re jumping the gun. It doesn’t matter if you’re moving forward in your job or you’re making a move to a different town, state or even just another house. Moving and making changes in your life is hard!
Here in the Hamlin house, we’ve been making some pretty tough decisions about our future.
Fourteen years ago, my husband and I (along with our new baby), moved into a cute little red house in the town next to where he grew up. He worked for a construction company in his hometown, just 15 minutes away and the town we moved to offered a good school for our child (and future children). We thought for sure that we’d raise our family here and stay forever.
Unfortunately, time passes and with it, things change.
The company my husband was working for closed, leaving him to find a new job. The school wasn’t quite what we had envisioned for our children and we ended up homeschooling throughout most of elementary school. And the economy in the area bottomed out, making it very difficult to find a job that offered good pay and benefits.
So, in 2014, we finally made the decision…we were moving forward with our little family to a tiny little mountain town in Vermont.
My husband found, what we thought was, a great job at a large construction company, we found a house to rent while we got to know the town and we headed north. We thought we had it all figured out…but we were wrong.
Six months into our new life, the company my husband was working for had a mass layoff. Being one of the “new” employees, he was laid off the first week of December and we were left without our main source of income in a new place and without any family nearby to help.
As if that wasn’t bad enough, the person we had renting our house in New York was moving, too! It seemed as if fate was playing a cruel trick on us and we got scared.
We knew we weren’t going to be able to make ends meet on our rented house in Vermont, let alone keep up our house in New York without his income and so, the only choice we had was to move home…just 5 days before Christmas.
At the time, moving back to New York, seemed like the right thing to do, but in hindsight, we did it mostly out of fear. Fear that we wouldn’t be able to pay our bills, fear that we wouldn’t have enough money to support our children or even provide them with a proper Christmas celebration.
It was a scary time for us, but we did what we thought was right at that moment in time. Looking back, there were a lot of things we could have done differently. Fear makes you do some crazy things at times and we allowed it to make the decisions for us.
But, not this time – fear is not going to get the best of us this time!
We’ve finally made the decision to move back to Vermont. My husband has found a great job…at a company without layoffs…and we’re moving forward. We’re in the midst of looking at houses, packing and sprucing up our house for the sale. It’s a scary prospect, but I know in the end it will all be worth it.
So, to you my friend, when you’re scared of moving forward…when you’re afraid to make a big decision in your life, I challenge you to just do it. Make the decision that your gut tells you to make and don’t listen to the second guessing of your mind. Good things will come, I promise!
Have a Spectacular Day!